Hi
I have issued Gabee with a RED STRIKE for unloving behaviour she displayed privately to me following the disciplinary action taken against her with regards to the three amber strikes.
Upon creating the strike thread relating to her 3 amber strikes, I saw that Gabee read the topic within one minute of me publishing the thread on the forums. I then received two emails from Gabee within an hour titled "I think there has been a misunderstanding."
I felt she projected anger, was manipulative and condescending towards myself in the emails all under a facade of trying to come across cool, calm, rational and collected. Her almost instantaneous email response to me following her muting also shows me the large amount of resistance she has at self-reflecting on what has been raised with her. She didn't really want to take note of the feedback given to her and it showed me that she was not here in sincerity to learn and develop in love but was more focused on using the forums addictively to avoid her own fears and grief.
She dissected my strike thread giving me her thoughts and feelings of why she felt her actions were innocent and reasonable whilst trying to show me that I may have been wrong in my feelings about her behaviour. When relating back to her 3 amber strike thread, this is the exact behaviour I brought up with her there with wanting to deflect attention from herself and blame others. If she took the time to self-reflect on my initial strike thread and on my suggestion to read Mary's strike thread concerning Jennifer B, she may have come to see this.
In her response, she also stated that she had not read the forum terms of use before registering and posting here which again shows me her current level of insincerity, lack of humility and her real motivations of wanting to get her addictions met with others here on the forums.
I felt I was lenient with her initially by issuing her with 3 amber strikes rather than a red strike so that she could still have viewing access to the forums as her behaviour towards David was borderline a red strike offence. As a result of her subsequent emails to me, I have ascertained that she doesn't really want to make loving use of the gifts offered here and actually wants to abuse them. Because of this, I feel Gabee has a strong sense of entitlement of receiving from others rather than seeing the gifts that have been offered to her - there is a strong demand/expectation coming from her towards others. This is all behaviour I cannot facilitate here.
I have emailed her outlining the reasons why I felt it was appropriate to take this action.
Thanks
Nicky