There have been a number of unloving interactions that have recently been occurring on the forum in the way some women have been acting and treating one another. Myself and the other forum staff have given ourselves some time to fully reflect and feel about the dynamics at play before posting feedback publicly. This is to ensure we are as accurate as possible not only with identifying and addressing issues that arise, but seeing it as an opportunity to help others learn and understand about important principles of love.
As a result of the aforementioned, I have decided to issue Tara with a RED STRIKE and a muting from the forum for the below post she made in response to Patricia's public apology for a previous interaction between them both and one where Patricia was issued with an AMBER STRIKE:
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I mentioned in the above thread that this unloving behaviour will shortly be addressed in detail, and now is that time. I feel the manner in which Tara has responded to Patricia has been done in quite a nasty, unloving way. Here is two such example of this from her post:
The way you treated me has shown me I still have lots of work to do on myself. At the same time it does not excuse your behaviour towards me and I feel that when going through any emotional process it is important to be honest with how you feel. I feel it is important to let you know that if Mary had not pointed out this unloving behaviour I would have thought that what you did is ok and you would have thought what you did was ok with having no idea the damage that is caused.
Later on, Tara said:
There is a strong feeling here of self-righteousness and there is another feeling accompanying it of wanting to harm and punish Patricia back for the way Patricia acted towards her previously.A good start is realizing you have been unloving, at this point I feel that most of the reasons are unknown to you and it will take time to go through to feel your way through the process of recognizing these things and healing yourself. It may help you to watch the videos AJ has done on Forgiveness, Repentance, Compensation, and Prayer. We both have alot of emotions to feel about this and I find I am always learning more and more on this forum. The feedback here has been very helpful.
In the second quoted section, there is a lot of condescension that Tara has projected at Patricia here too. As I touched on in my response on the thread itself, Tara has not allowed herself to feel truthfully and sincerely about the previous interaction between herself and Patricia and as a result, has responded in a retaliative and unloving manner. The unloving behaviour perpetrated by Tara towards Patricia in this second interaction between them both is far more unloving than the way Patricia acted towards Tara initially, and thus has resulted in more serious disciplinary action taken against Tara (which will more accurately reflect the consequences exacted against her soul in relation to Patricia's) for these interactions.
I feel the interaction that played out here is a perfect illustration in how NOT to engage with others on the forum when your "unpleasant" emotions are triggered. If you do not allow yourself to work through the emotions that came up via a forum interaction (feedback from a member of forum staff, or interaction with another member) at least to a degree, before coming back to post again, there is a extremely high likelihood that your subsequent posts will be unloving. When you choose to take this action, you are going to be running the risk of being issued with either an AMBER OR RED STRIKE depending on the severity of the unloving behaviour that was perpetrated as a consequence of your soul based decision in choosing not to love.
I feel this interaction also shows a lack of sincerity on Tara's part in terms of not wanting to feel her feelings in order to become more of a loving person. She stated earlier in her response to Patricia that a lot of her own emotions came up and that she has been processing through them. I cannot agree with this statement and it is one made from a place of facade, for if she had been processing through her emotions as she said, she wouldn't have acted in the way that she had towards Patricia as I have taken the time to describe above.
Tara as everyone else who has been muted, is encouraged and welcomed to get back to me via email at a point in the future where she feels as though she has worked through the emotions that caused her to act in this way if she would like to re-engage with the rest of the forum community and make full use of the gifts on offer here.
Thanks
Nicky