Encroachment
Posted: Fri Apr 29, 2016 9:40 am
Hi,
What does encroachment actually feel like?
I think i might have had issues with that long ago and then i completely blocked it off by wishing i would be in the other role in a relationship.
Now i want to investigate this feeling, that is so far locked away. Is there guilt? Obligation? I read a sentence in a book sayig it's the fear of loosing ones own individuality, or merging into an other, but what does that feel like exactly? What's the dynamic?
Also does feeling encroached in a adult relationship feel the same as when feeling encroached as a child by our parents or does it only start feeling this yucky when there is a sexual component involved (after puberty)
What does encroachment feel like as a child?
What does the act of encroaching a child feel like to the adult when the adult is doing it?
I have read all the books AJ and Mary have recommended about emotional incest, but i was wondering if anyone with some insights into their own experience of feelings of encroachment could share more about t the actual feeling, as a can't find much on internet. To help me reconnect with those blocked off feelings myself.
Thanks a million
Mia
What does encroachment actually feel like?
I think i might have had issues with that long ago and then i completely blocked it off by wishing i would be in the other role in a relationship.
Now i want to investigate this feeling, that is so far locked away. Is there guilt? Obligation? I read a sentence in a book sayig it's the fear of loosing ones own individuality, or merging into an other, but what does that feel like exactly? What's the dynamic?
Also does feeling encroached in a adult relationship feel the same as when feeling encroached as a child by our parents or does it only start feeling this yucky when there is a sexual component involved (after puberty)
What does encroachment feel like as a child?
What does the act of encroaching a child feel like to the adult when the adult is doing it?
I have read all the books AJ and Mary have recommended about emotional incest, but i was wondering if anyone with some insights into their own experience of feelings of encroachment could share more about t the actual feeling, as a can't find much on internet. To help me reconnect with those blocked off feelings myself.
Thanks a million
Mia