When I'm in either state it feels very hard to imagine the feelings of the other state.
For instance, as a working example, when I go to my local coffee shop there is a sofa my husband and I try to sit on if we can as we do our crossword in the shop and it's easier and more comfortable for the sofa. Sometimes I have been in the shop on my own and the sofa has been empty so I have sat down and I have felt determined that I won't give up the seat for anyone as I am as entitled to sit on it, being on my own, as I am when I am with someone. But other times, like today, I was on the lookout for people who may look as though they need the sofa more than me for some reason. It didn't happen, mainly as it was quite early in the morning so not too many customers and plenty of other places to sit.
I'm quite ashamed and embarrassed to admit to these spiteful feelings and I don't like feeling hateful and mean but sometimes it seems impossible not to.
Does anyone else have a similar experience, please?