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Hi

After some deliberation I have decided to remove Emily's two Amber strikes and have given reasons in a post to her at the following link:

http://forum.divinetruthhub.com/viewtop ... 3197#p3197

I have issued Emily with a warning previously that still stands about projecting anger at others in contrast to owning it.

I have left the amber strike stuff I wrote below to be transparent, but please note the strikes do not stand.

The feedback I gave Emily I feel actually stands, but I feel it would have been better for me to give it as feedback and discussion points rather than strikes. I feel that Emily's initial introduction post was engaging addictively and not taking personal responsibility for her actions for which I gave her immediate feedback, I still stand by this. You can feel a difference in her first and second post.

The second strike given for the following:

Projecting anger and resistance when addictions were challenged

I feel in this case needs to be removed. Again I feel the words I said have some issues to be considered, but again ought to have been given as feedback and warnings first. Due to my own emotional injuries I couldn't feel if Emily was angry at me personally or just angry that her addictions had been challenge. Both demonstrate a lack of Humility. But if it was the latter, and I am giving the benefit of the doubt, then I would be being hypocritical and quite 'hard' about issuing a strike for that.

There are very few people who do not get resistive when their addictions are challenged.
I want to be clear I didn't remove the strikes to excuse the behaviour or because 'everyone does it', rather because I wasn't certain, I removed them as I feel that when in addiction it is fairer to point it out specifically, give a warning first and an opportunity to change. In order to change, our addictions need to be exposed, we need to recognise them intellectually and then emotionally in order to change, this is a process.

Thanks

Eloisa

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Hi

I have issued Emily with 2 AMBER STRIKES for the reasons outlined below.

AMBER STRIKE 1

Reflecting further on Emily’s introduction post I feel that an Amber Strike is warranted for

Engaging addictively with other people on this forum (including spirits), and for not taking personal responsibility for your actions.

More detailed feedback was given about the specifics in the introduction, at the following link.

http://forum.divinetruthhub.com/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=747


AMBER STRIKE 2

Projecting anger and resistance when addictions were challenged

Having given feedback to Emily about her introductory post she replied saying

I just want to rebel against what you’ve said and feel like a little girl being told off for her sharing herself, her story of what’s brought to the divine path and what I’ve discovered since. So I have much resistance to what you’ve said and as that little girl just want to stomp her feet and scream angrily back at you. As my mum was the one always telling me off and punishing me.

I feel this is the most truthful that you have been Emily with how you feel and I feel that this is a good beginning point as it highlights some blocks, resistance and rebellion which is hindering your progress at this time. It is great that you recognised your feelings about this.

Having the tantrum and sincerely feeling how much you desire to rebel and resist, is an opportunity that can open you up to feel about WHY you desire to so which in turn gives the opportunity to find the deeper emotions driving these actions.

Emily, after beginning to reply more honestly, you become noticeable resistive and go back into the same addiction I gave you feedback on initially. You justify your actions and also get angry at me for raising the addiction in the first place.

You said:

I felt like I was being honest in my sharing of me when I wrote it.

I cannot agree that you were sincerely sharing yourself in your first post. The difference between your first post and your second is vastly different, the first being very incoherent, the second being much clearer, though insincere.

Your words and feelings are not matching up in your response which is part of the facade you desire to present rather than your true feelings.

You also feel I am telling you off and punishing you ‘just like your mum does’ rather than seeing that your desire to remain in the addiction and getting angry at me bringing it up is what is the real problem here.

You say:

…it has also highlights some of what I try to say but get misunderstood even though I feel like I said things clearly. Which you are telling me very different,

The above comment, and suggesting I am ‘just like your mother’ are quite manipulative and attacking rather than being open and transparent about your true feelings which are more along the lines that you completely disagree with what I say and that you are angry about your addictions being challenged.

Error fights for itself and I notice that when addictions get confronted most of us get resistive and/or angry, which is what has happened in your post. This is due to you not actually feeling about the feedback I gave you in the first place which means your second post was written out of the same addiction as the first which resulted in you wanting to defend and justify your actions.


I hope that this feedback will help you to consider the addictions that you are currently engaging in and to more sincerely explore the real emotions and feelings you have when you decide to post and respond here on the forum in the future.


Thanks

Eloisa